To do something radically means to do it thoroughly, completely, exhaustive, forcefully, and drastically. Radical Acceptance then is simply the act of totally and thoroughly accepting the state of something with every fiber of your being. We wrestle so much with our reality. We fight with how unfair it is, we fight with what we think we deserve, what someone else doesn’t. We fight to prove a point, to make people pay. Radical acceptance is the act of laying those defenses down. The decision to stop fighting against reality doesn’t come natural for most of us. When something isn’t right we want to scream it from the rooftops. It’s human instinct to want justice when you feel wronged but there is more power in peace. When we stop fighting, we stop the suffering. It opens the door to true healing, growth, and restoration.
I remember when I came face to face with having to make the decision as to whether or not I was even open to pursuing radical acceptance. I won’t lie to you, this step felt more like a mountain to climb. I’m naturally a fair-fighter so radical acceptance goes against my instinct. It can feel like you are letting people off the hook when you release it and are no longer angry. It’s sometimes hard to accept this concept, because we often confuse acceptance with approval and we don’t want to approve something that’s wrong. In reality neither of those correlations are true. Radical Acceptance simply means that you are removing yourself as the judge and jury of another humans fate. It means that you leave their karma to God and you move on. With every offense comes a lesson, if we move forward with the lessons and leave the offense, we can truly grow.
And trust me. I am not telling you something I heard. I am telling you something I know. And let’s be real clear. It is not a destination. It is a journey, a journey that I am still on, but it is definitely a journey I am committed to, because more than I want others to “pay”, I want my peace. Because for me, peace is priceless.